I was sat at home the other night, trying to figure out exactly what it was that ended my downward spiral into hating myself and sent me off on my body positive, self-love journey and then as I was trying to find something to watch, it hit me! A TV show changed my life and I didn’t even realise the positive effect it had on me until now.
To some, and by some I mean my husband, it may seem like just another cheesy American series but to me… Well I guess it made me realise that what you look like has very little relevance to how successful you can be, and you can even be beautiful without fitting into the boxes that society as a whole deems to be attractive and appealing. “So what is this magical TV show that you speak of I hear you ask?” Well, keep reading and you will find out.
Drop Dead Diva
Drop Dead Diva is an American TV Show that aired from 2009 and ran for 6 seasons on Lifetime. The show is centred around a vapid aspiring fashion model who was killed on her way to an audition. Her soul enters heaven and as a result of her shallow and vapid nature she is declared a ‘zero-zero’, meaning that during her time alive she performed zero good deeds and zero bad deeds. While her guardian is figuring out what to do with her, Deb finds a loophole and returns to earth but the problem is, she doesn’t go back into her own body. Instead she enters the body of a deceased lawyer called Jane who died trying to protect her boss. Brilliant, hardworking, charitable, dowdy Jane is the complete opposite of Deb and she just so happens to be plus size too. Now living as Jane, Deb must find a way to learn more about her inherited life and must come to terms with her new life, brains and body, learning lessons about self-esteem and personal acceptance along the way.
I would highly recommend checking this series out because, in my opinion, it is awesome – you can buy the full box set but I would suggest starting with Season One which you can buy from Amazon and if you enjoy it, you can build up your collection from there.
How A TV Show Changed My Life
When I first started watching this show I wasn’t sure what to make of it. As a plus size woman I think I was worried that it was going to take all the stereotypes and basically use it to poke fun but the way it is put together is very well done, especially considering it was created by a man. The portrayal of Deb in Jane’s body, played by Brooke Elliot is inspiring as you see her finally understand the stigma that comes with being overweight as well as becoming a better version of both Deb and Jane combined and the fact that they portray her as being smart, funny and attractive is a joy to watch. Finally, a show where the lead is someone who is not society’s idea of perfection and isn’t treated as just the butt of some cruel joke.
The more I watched, the more I found myself wanting to be more like Jane. Not that I wanted to be a lawyer at some fancy law firm, have a guardian angel or risk death so I could live in someone else’s body, but I wanted her confidence, her ability to see the worst in herself but somehow find a way to embrace it rather than try to change it to become the person she wants to be and not what people think she should be.
My Body Positive Journey
And that’s where it all started, from there I became best friends with the internet and found lots of information out there about body positivity and learning to embrace your imperfections rather than hate yourself for them. I worked hard, retraining myself to accept things about myself that I would normally despise, I learnt to ignore the negative comments from not just other people but my inner voice and after a while I found that I didn’t have to try. I would look at photographs that I used to hate because I looked a certain way and I began to see beauty, now when I look in the mirror I see areas that need improvement (I’m not blind, lol) but I also like what I see staring back at me and if I can make those improvements, great. If I can’t, well that’s okay too!
Everybody’s journey is completely different but this is how my story began. It is still very much a work in progress and like any normal person, of course I still have bad days but I am so much more positive than I used to be, which makes me happy. Now I want to dedicate my time and effort to helping you get to a place where you can start to embrace your imperfections and realise that you are perfect just the way you are. Let’s support each other because strong women build each other up instead of tearing each other down!
Tell me something about your body positive journey? What inspired your journey into body positivity?