On Your Terms
with Haley Ryan
Two people who've stopped pretending everything's fine, having the kind of raw conversation you'd have at 2am when you're both finally being honest. Each week, a different cohost joins me to explore a shared struggle with self-abandonment, boundaries, and choosing yourself. We talk about the turning point, the cost, and the parts that are still hard. No scripts, no performance, no toxic positivity. Just real people discussing the messy reality of going from living on autopilot to designing life on your own terms. Hosted by Haley Ryan, former RAF theatre tech and living on your terms mentor.
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What this podcast is
This is not an expert interview show. I don't bring on coaches, therapists, or thought leaders with something to sell.
I bring on ordinary people who are living this in real time. People who used to abandon themselves and are figuring out, slowly and imperfectly, how to stop.
Because that's what actually helps. Not someone who has it all figured out telling you what to do. Someone sitting in the mess with you, being honest about it.
If you've ever listened to a podcast and thought "everyone else seems to have this sorted except me," this one is different. Nobody here has it sorted. That's the whole point.
Why I started it
I spent years looking for conversations like this and not finding them. Everything was either too polished, too positive, or too focused on the breakthrough and not the reality of what came before it.
I wanted a space where the messy middle was the whole point. Where people could hear their own experience reflected back at them without the performance, without the tidy resolution, without someone telling them to just raise their vibration and trust the process.
I also wanted to have these conversations out loud, because the thing that helped me most wasn't a framework or a course. It was hearing someone else say the thing I thought only I felt.
That's what On Your Terms is. Every week, a different person saying the thing.
Want to be a guest?
If you have a story about self-abandonment, people-pleasing, or choosing yourself and you're willing to tell it honestly, I'd love to talk.
I'm not looking for people who have it figured out. I'm looking for people who are still in it and willing to be real about that. The turning point doesn't have to be behind you. You just have to be willing to be honest about where you are.
Ready to go deeper?
The podcast is the conversation. If you want support making the shift yourself, here's where to start.