A tale of 2 body types – I have been married to Matt for just over 8 years now and he isn’t just my husband, he’s my best friend, my partner in crime and the one person who can bring me down off the ledge when I self destruct. I absolutely love him to bits but at the same time I can’t help but hate him.
You see, he is one of those people that can just eat as much junk as they like and never gain any weight. In fact in the nine and a half years that I have known him he has always been 6ft tall and between 65-70kg and despite the fact that he makes no effort to keep fit, stay healthy or exercise everyone that meets him assumes he is some sort of athlete. Meanwhile, I’m working my ass off to even just maintain the body type that I am just because I am not lucky enough to be blessed with his freakishly fast metabolism.
All that aside, when we first got together I had a really hard time with it because my confidence just wasn’t as high and as well as wondering why he wouldn’t want someone with a similar body type, someone hotter and what people thought when they saw us together. You know the types of thoughts, the ‘how the hell did that happen?’ or the ‘wow, they must have a good personality!’ kind of thoughts. I was sure that I needed to get thinner to give him a reason to stick around.
And then there was the physical side of it (mum, if you’re reading you should probably skip this paragraph, lol). For years into our marriage I was scared to try certain positions and the thought of me being on top filled me with actual dread because I was convinced that I would crush him. Irrational I know but that’s just my brain.
Turns out though, the only person that had an issue with a curvy girl and a skinny dude being together was me and as soon as I realised this, everything changed. I became more comfortable in my skin, happier, more confident and it has even brought us closer together.
So who else has lived /is living through this? And more importantly, how did/do you deal with it?
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